England, Penny Lane and Dove Cottage

Several years ago I went to England and as we made are journey from the City of London   via CIE tour we stopped at Liverpool.  Liverpool is the birth place of Paul McCartney.  It is obvious where the song “Penny Lane” came from.  We visited the home of Paul McCartney and were only allowed to see the outside.  It was kinda cool to see where one of the members of the “Beatles” had lived.

I found the next stop to be very familiar and heart warming (even though I had never been there before). Walking along the grounds and witnessing the beauty in the trees, flowers and nostalgia of the stone buildings was nothing short of breath taking.   As you can see from the picture below it is called “Wordsworth Country.”  Wordsworth lived and wrote in this area.  He was a poet and born in 1770.    My thought was “Wow If this is only the beginning of our 2 week tour I cannot wait to see what else is in store for us!  IMG_1599.JPG

Saint Margaret’s Chapel, Edinburgh, Scotland

I had the privilege of visiting Edinburgh, Scotland with a friend over the past 2 years.  We decided not to go this year but I am reminded of the beauty, fun and eloquence of visiting The Royal Mile.  Edinburgh Castle sits on volcanic rock at the top of Royal Mile.  I was out of breath when I reached the top of the Royal Mile, even though I did not walk a mile!  St. Margaret’s Chapel is the oldest building in Edinburgh.  It was first built in the 12th century and was not used after the reformation.  Fortunately, it was restored in 1851-1852 with the support of Queen Victoria.  Interesting to note that the style of architecture was during the reign of David.  I thought that was pretty cool!

Chanting ~ How it impacted my life!

I recently had the experience of listening to a live youtube channel of a weekend event with Krishna Das in Yogaville in May, 2018.  He has been chanting for many years and also plays the Harmonium.  There are several others who are a part of this band.  I love listening to his chanting and the musical instruments.  One of the musical instruments I deeply resonate with is the “violin”.  It just sets my heart on fire.

Tears of joy, sadness and even my deepest fears came bursting forth during this event.  I do not know what the words mean and I do not need to know but I do Know that I was transformed by this weekend event.  I still am contemplating whether to get a “Harmonium” or not!  I want to learn how to play it and chant with it!  I was so impacted by this experience that I looked at tickets for his next event.  I did not want to miss out!

My inner chatter totally subsided and I felt “one” with everything.  The “pain” that I carried in my body (I had no idea that this extent of “pain” even existed) came to the forefront.  I was grateful for it and at the same time it was a big “Wow”.

Krishna Das says;  “That he needed to sing to clear out the dark corners in his mind” or something like that.  I totally get it.  I believe we all have a voice inside of us that needs to express.  I have had a lot of fear in my life to express myself and that is one of the reasons why I write.  I have a history and believe me when I tell you a long history of being uncomfortable with speaking up in a conversation or saying “no” but am learning that my “discomfort” is a doorway to my divinity which involves  me being human and divine.

Love your Ego….

Love your Ego

Love your mind and let it unwind..

Don’t keep track of your thoughts.  Don’t go back to the incident and try to figure it out or fix it or berate yourself for it.  Leave it in the past and let it have a “blast.”  Thoughts have no power over you ~ Just observe.  99% of the time the thoughts you think will not come to fruition.  You are “loving awareness”,  You are loving awareness.  Your Soul is who you are not your thoughts.  If the mind chatters -just let it!  Let emotions arise.  Embrace your fear, anger and sadness.   Allow, allow and allow.

Don’t believe anything you hear from others or read.  Use your own discretion and intuition.  Stay present and stay in the moment.  Listen to the birds sing and the as  river.  Use you as your own navigation tool.  Don’t take yourself too seriously.  Seriously what are you so serious about anyways.

Trust, play, enjoy, engage, walk away when you need too.  Don’t try too hard.  Life is on your side.  Do what lights you up.  Know that everything will be okay.  It is between you and God anyways.  Let go and don’t try to be spiritual cuz you already are.

 

Empaths vs. Narcissists

I have been carrying this heavy weight on my chest for I don’t know how long.  I am 55 and I have come to the conclusion that I am an empath.  People who are empathetic feel and sometimes carry the weight of the world on their shoulders.  I have also taken responsibility for everyone else’s needs before my own.  I have identified that it is my fault when in fact I’m not seeing what is right in front of me or using my intuition.

Why is it difficult for me to use my intuition?  Because I doubt ~ I always give people the benefit of the doubt and always give them excuses for their behavior.  I also want to feel loved.   I’ve been doing this all of my life and it is time to do things differently.

You may be asking What is a Narcissist?  There is varying degrees of narcissism.  Their is a lot of information about this topic if you were to google search it. I have become curious surrounding this topic due to the fact that I noticed I did not have good boundaries in relationships.  I also noticed I was always people pleasing and wanted to learn about this dynamic.

What I have come to learn about narcissistic behavior:  It’s all about them and what benefits them.  They tend to be a bully.    You lose yourself or your own identity.  Lying and manipulation to get their way.  Don’t take responsibility for their actions and tend to blame others.  Not honoring others and their own space.  Leave a conversation second guessing yourself.  Not honoring of your emotional needs.

Empathetic people tend to see the good in others forgetting to see what is right in front of them.  Empathetic people want peace and can give their power away or think that the other party knows more than they do.  They meet other peoples needs before their own.  Empaths usually do not have good boundaries and try to make things work when they won’t.  Empaths can feel what other’s are feeling and can lose objectivity.

What Empath’s need to do to strengthen themselves:

  1.  Set boundaries.
  2.  Limit your time spent around them or walk away.
  3.  Say “No” when it is safer to say “Yes”.
  4.  Care for your hurt before their hurt.
  5.  Express yourself in a safe environment.
  6.  Get in touch with nature or be with animals
  7.  Listen to music
  8. Honor your sensitivity and well-being
  9.  Love yourself

 

“Self Honesty” requires courage!

Self Honesty is decisive action.  It is ferociousness!  It is putting energy into motion.   It is the best decision I have ever made for myself due to the fact I have been a “people pleaser” my entire life.  It involves being honest with relationships, communication, eating, and doing what is right and necessary for your life.  It is saying “no” when you want to say “yes” for the sake of not creating conflict and saying “Yes” to situations and things that you know serve your well-being.  I have found when I am caught in the scrutiny of making a decision I just don’t make one.  Don’t do things for “acceptance” sake.

Self Honesty builds self-esteem and self-worth.  It requires courage and determination.  At least that is what is on my list of ingredients.  Don’t beat yourself up because you set up “boundaries” in your relationships, especially when it comes to family members.  I believe people will always respect you and if they don’t than it is their problem not yours.  It’s like spring cleaning maybe you need to “spring clean” your friends.  Keep the ones who honor, respect and accept you for who you are.  Doing this for yourself is an act of “kindness” and love.

Be your own best friend, it does not matter what “others” think, it only matters what you believe and think.  What “lights” you up and what makes your heart “sing”.  So go now and show the world what your made of… they have been waiting for you.

How I changed through Vibrational Transformation

What is Transformation Vibration?  A wise person once said (Panache Desai)
“when you change your energy you change your life.”  He refers to himself as a vibrational catalyst.

I have had the privilege to work with him over the course of the past 5 years.  He has helped me transform my “dense” or heavy energy.  This is done through the process of embracing your sadness, fear and anger.  We are taught from an early age on that it is not Okay to feel our feelings.   When we suppress these emotions we literally feel “weighed” down.

When I am in Panaches presence my supppressed feelings rise to the surface and past memories surface and hence my feelings come to life.  such as anger, sadness, pain etc.  I have learned so much about myself over this 5 year period.  This has not been easy by any means….

BENEFITS: 1. Opening my heart (I had no idea I had a closed heart until I met Panache).  2. Being honest with myself. 3.  Overcoming adversity. 4. Less afraid of being judged. 5. Speaking and standing up for myself. 6. Embracing life and much more.

When vibrational transformation happens you get to the covered spaces within you and the love and light do it’s work on your behalf.  It opens up dark corners and the light shines forth. I have noticed that I  have abandoned myself for the sake of putting other people before my own needs.  I had to learn to pull myself in to connect to myself instead of the outside world.  More or less I was giving my power away.  I had to look at “my so called flaws.”

To this day I still don’t like my anger, resentments, jealousy but I am discovering that this is part of our human nature and when we can learn to embrace this instead of “negating” it energy opens up for us in a whole new way.   Love is inclusive ~ the good, bad and ugly.  Remember this next time when you may perceive a not so nice feeling arise!  Don’t settle and don’t sell yourself short.

Why I started to blog?

I started to Blog in 2011.  I wanted to share inspiration and information with others.  Most of my blog posts started out about my personal journey.  Maybe one would call it Self-help.  I would like to say it was a good way to give myself my own advice and maybe this would call to someone else’s heart.  Writing has always been cathartic for me and it is a great way to gain clarity in my own life.  Believe it or not I still feel hesitant when I write and all kinds of “doubt” seep in but I continue to do it anyway!  I can be my own worst critic.

I expanded my blogging with different subjects recently..  The subjects include nutrition, travel, self-help, inspiration, healing modalities, essential oils and health.   I am not an expert but I love to share what has helped me on my journey.  A key ingredient has been commitment, consistency and repetition.  I am also a Yoga instructor and RN.  I would be interested to know what subject you would like to know more about.  Please go to my contact page on my website at http://www.annelamantia.com and leave me a message if your interested.

I also have some good resources if you are interested in starting a blog.  I like to keep my posts to 300 words or less.  I like to keep it simple.  I use social media and other platforms to share information and I would like to expand even more.

 

My trip to Ireland!

Ireland has always had a stronghold upon my heart and I suppose it has to do with my ancestral lineage and my father has always been obsessed with Ireland!  He also owned an Irish Pub in upstate NY called “Carnsie’s”.  My maiden name is Carns but according to my Dad the original spelling is “Cairns”.

I have been to Ireland twice over the past several years and the beauty is breath-taking.  My favorite visits have been to Dingle Bay and the Cliffs of Moher (picture above).    The feeling was as if I were at “home”.   The water, green grass and the cliffs are nothing short of amazing.  The Irish are simplistic and kind.  The food, currents, and soups were amazing.  There “soups” were pureed in every restaurant I ate in.  Eating breakfast reminded me of eating brunch at my Grandmother’s on Easter Sunday.  Chopped fruit, bacon, eggs, toast and soda bread.  They did offer baked beans for breakfast so my grandmother did not have it down pat!!

Before I went to Ireland I did research on my Grandmother’s side.  Her name was Clara Farrell and she was from County Clare.  Knowing this gave me much comfort and interest in my lineage in County Clare.

Another favorite place that I visited is Blarney Castle.  The first structure was built in the 10th century.  The Castle was surrounded by beautiful gardens and trees, below is a pic of a tree on the grounds.

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Over the course of my 2 visits I visited  Blarney Castle, Dingle Peninsula, Cliffs of Moher, Dalkey Village, Dublin, Clonmacnoise(a monastic settlement), Connemara (Hills of potato ridges) and Kylemore Abbey and impressive mansion.  Ring of Kerry tour mountains and Atlantic Coastline and the famous waterford Crystal Collection.  It is true that the “Irish” love to tell tales and sing.  I witnessed this when visiting the pubs.

If you have any interest I would highly recommend it and you will not be disappointed.  Ireland is a piece of “Heaven” on this earth!

 

How a “Boating” accident impacted my family!

I was in an boating accident on the weekend of July 4th, 2017.  In my wildest dreams I never thought this would happen to me, worse yet my entire family (except my son).  My children are in their 20’s.  Intuition is powerful ~ When I stepped on the boat I had a feeling to not go on the boat ride but my stubbornness overrode this feeling.

We came upon a boat that needed towing.   I immediately said “yes” which is not like me.  I sat at the tip of the boat with 2 of Megan’s (my daughter) friends.  We threw a line to the boat and it was probably 3 minutes into the tow when myself and the 2 other gals had a premonition something was about to happen!  …and out of the blue “my husband says they are going to hit us.”  I looked up and saw a boat headed straight towards us.  No time to think or do anything.  They hit the right side of our boat where my husband was driving and ripped out the right side of our boat.  Thankfully we all survived.

We stood there in disarray for a moment and it was completely quite.  The windshield on the right and left side of the boat was shattered in very small pieces and my thought was.  .. oh know someone died! I began to panic as I saw blood on myself and some of the others.  My eyes were open but I did not want to see.   I did a head check and everyone was accounted for.    I saw Megan’s friend crying and she wanted to get out of the boat.  Yep, I felt responsible for everyone!  Always a mother!  I was scared due to the fact I did not know if someone got injured very badly.  Everyone was scared, in shock and crying, even my husband who never shows his feelings.  I was confused because the boat that hit us stayed at bay and did not even offer to help.  Eventually someone did come to help and got the girls who were crying off the boat and towed us into land.  Grateful there was no injures to the boat we were towing but one quick look I could see that they were also in shock.

When I arrived on land I was very grateful and was relieved I was no longer on the boat. From what I saw everyone had that feeling!  I felt powerless due to the fact I saw my daughter crying and some of her friends.  I felt sad that we had this experience.  What I noticed within myself is that I could not form a sentence.  I did this for a few days.  Fear, and anger was my best friend.  It was hard to comprehend what had happened.

Several of us went to the hospital and everything was okay.  What kept going through my mind was how precious life is and it could be gone in an instant!  I also realized none of us were meant to die.

On the way back to my Lake House I was scared that we were going to get in a car accident and my daughter’s felt like that too.  When I arrived back to the house we were humbled, frightened and grateful for this experience.   It’s been 6 months and yesterday I finally (6 months later)  I went to the Lake House and I was glad I did cuz I cried and cried the fears and emotions of what had happened came barreling in.  I had no idea of the amount of fear I carried around with me for 6 months.  that I had that was crippling me until I came face to fa