From “Woes to Wow”

At this moment I am recognizing that I need to look at the “Wow Factor” and in translation it means recognizing the simple things that I can so easily overlook.  It is easy to get caught up in our own little pity parties and not focus on “Wow” this happened to me today or  “wow” isn’t this wonderful.  Even though I might not like how something is going I might as well go with the flow with the way life is.  No cents being bent out of shape!

I came home to 2 turkeys in my back yard today.   Unheard and unseen of  and “Wow” that is pretty darn cool.  But at the same time it does not dismiss how you feel inside when feelings arise you just got to feel in order to get to the other side of it.  So when you feel sad, angry don’t dismiss it feel it through to completion and don’t waste any more time than needed and move on to the next thing.   Most of the time what we feel in the moment or in our bodies is a memory of something  that happened a long time ago.  Move your body or do something to shake it off.   Someone once told me a story of a lawyer who quit his job and opened a cake industry.  Brilliant!

 

Wow I get to type these words on my blog and you get to see them, how cool is that?    Wow just the fact that I am breathing is a miracle!  Wow I get to experience life itself just by sitting in this chair and witnessing my thoughts, sounds and texture of this key board.

Yes my friends, the birth of a baby or a beautiful sunset is “WOW”  but what if today you can find the Wow in the mundane and overlooked places.  See or feel what is right in front of  you and I promise you will not be disappointed!

 

Midlife and Re-writing the script!

What do you want out of life? I have asked myself this question over the past several months.  I am 50 Plus and I am in the midst of re-writing my script.  Actually, I feel more alive than I ever have.  For years I have had the belief that I never deserved what I truly desired or that I could not have it.  Belief systems are deeply ingrained but one has to challenge their beliefs or find a solution to a perceived problem.

In the past I have wrecked my head over what is it that i wanted. .  A friend suggested that I write out my smallest to biggest desires and feel into it.  I did that and still no breakthrough until now…  I discovered it has nothing to do with accomplishments, projects or achievements.  My desire is to be in the moment, have fun, share love and when I do that everything else will flow and through me.

I want you to know it is never to late to re-write your script and do what gives you joy.  When you are in joy ~ your body relaxes and your health and appearance improves along with your state of mind.  You and I owe this to ourself.  We deserve to nurture ourselves in this way.  Now is the time!

Life Is a Blessing & Here is Why?

I am the person today because of my past:

Yes, it has been hard, scary, downright terrifying and in between.  but… I would not be the person I am today because of it.

There has been up’s and down’s, left turns and right turns and in between’s but… I am the person today because of it.

There has been stormy, cloudy and bright ski’s  but… I am the person today because of it

There has been earaches, heartaches and tooth aches but… I am the person today because of it.

There has been miracles,  blessings and second guessing but… I am the person today because of it.

There has been night fall and snow fall and fall fall fall but… I am the person today because of it.

There has been children, boredom and conundrum but… I am the person today because of it.

There has been breakthroughs, breakdowns and weepy eyes  but…I am the person today because of it.

There has been pain and sorrow that could not wait for the morrow  but… I am the person today because of it.

I am a speck of the divine and so are you so live it full out and live it for you!

 

 

 

 

 

England, Penny Lane and Dove Cottage

Several years ago I went to England and as we made are journey from the City of London   via CIE tour we stopped at Liverpool.  Liverpool is the birth place of Paul McCartney.  It is obvious where the song “Penny Lane” came from.  We visited the home of Paul McCartney and were only allowed to see the outside.  It was kinda cool to see where one of the members of the “Beatles” had lived.

I found the next stop to be very familiar and heart warming (even though I had never been there before). Walking along the grounds and witnessing the beauty in the trees, flowers and nostalgia of the stone buildings was nothing short of breath taking.   As you can see from the picture below it is called “Wordsworth Country.”  Wordsworth lived and wrote in this area.  He was a poet and born in 1770.    My thought was “Wow If this is only the beginning of our 2 week tour I cannot wait to see what else is in store for us!  IMG_1599.JPG

Love your Ego….

Love your Ego

Love your mind and let it unwind..

Don’t keep track of your thoughts.  Don’t go back to the incident and try to figure it out or fix it or berate yourself for it.  Leave it in the past and let it have a “blast.”  Thoughts have no power over you ~ Just observe.  99% of the time the thoughts you think will not come to fruition.  You are “loving awareness”,  You are loving awareness.  Your Soul is who you are not your thoughts.  If the mind chatters -just let it!  Let emotions arise.  Embrace your fear, anger and sadness.   Allow, allow and allow.

Don’t believe anything you hear from others or read.  Use your own discretion and intuition.  Stay present and stay in the moment.  Listen to the birds sing and the as  river.  Use you as your own navigation tool.  Don’t take yourself too seriously.  Seriously what are you so serious about anyways.

Trust, play, enjoy, engage, walk away when you need too.  Don’t try too hard.  Life is on your side.  Do what lights you up.  Know that everything will be okay.  It is between you and God anyways.  Let go and don’t try to be spiritual cuz you already are.

 

Why I started to blog?

I started to Blog in 2011.  I wanted to share inspiration and information with others.  Most of my blog posts started out about my personal journey.  Maybe one would call it Self-help.  I would like to say it was a good way to give myself my own advice and maybe this would call to someone else’s heart.  Writing has always been cathartic for me and it is a great way to gain clarity in my own life.  Believe it or not I still feel hesitant when I write and all kinds of “doubt” seep in but I continue to do it anyway!  I can be my own worst critic.

I expanded my blogging with different subjects recently..  The subjects include nutrition, travel, self-help, inspiration, healing modalities, essential oils and health.   I am not an expert but I love to share what has helped me on my journey.  A key ingredient has been commitment, consistency and repetition.  I am also a Yoga instructor and RN.  I would be interested to know what subject you would like to know more about.  Please go to my contact page on my website at http://www.annelamantia.com and leave me a message if your interested.

I also have some good resources if you are interested in starting a blog.  I like to keep my posts to 300 words or less.  I like to keep it simple.  I use social media and other platforms to share information and I would like to expand even more.

 

How a “Boating” accident impacted my family!

I was in an boating accident on the weekend of July 4th, 2017.  In my wildest dreams I never thought this would happen to me, worse yet my entire family (except my son).  My children are in their 20’s.  Intuition is powerful ~ When I stepped on the boat I had a feeling to not go on the boat ride but my stubbornness overrode this feeling.

We came upon a boat that needed towing.   I immediately said “yes” which is not like me.  I sat at the tip of the boat with 2 of Megan’s (my daughter) friends.  We threw a line to the boat and it was probably 3 minutes into the tow when myself and the 2 other gals had a premonition something was about to happen!  …and out of the blue “my husband says they are going to hit us.”  I looked up and saw a boat headed straight towards us.  No time to think or do anything.  They hit the right side of our boat where my husband was driving and ripped out the right side of our boat.  Thankfully we all survived.

We stood there in disarray for a moment and it was completely quite.  The windshield on the right and left side of the boat was shattered in very small pieces and my thought was.  .. oh know someone died! I began to panic as I saw blood on myself and some of the others.  My eyes were open but I did not want to see.   I did a head check and everyone was accounted for.    I saw Megan’s friend crying and she wanted to get out of the boat.  Yep, I felt responsible for everyone!  Always a mother!  I was scared due to the fact I did not know if someone got injured very badly.  Everyone was scared, in shock and crying, even my husband who never shows his feelings.  I was confused because the boat that hit us stayed at bay and did not even offer to help.  Eventually someone did come to help and got the girls who were crying off the boat and towed us into land.  Grateful there was no injures to the boat we were towing but one quick look I could see that they were also in shock.

When I arrived on land I was very grateful and was relieved I was no longer on the boat. From what I saw everyone had that feeling!  I felt powerless due to the fact I saw my daughter crying and some of her friends.  I felt sad that we had this experience.  What I noticed within myself is that I could not form a sentence.  I did this for a few days.  Fear, and anger was my best friend.  It was hard to comprehend what had happened.

Several of us went to the hospital and everything was okay.  What kept going through my mind was how precious life is and it could be gone in an instant!  I also realized none of us were meant to die.

On the way back to my Lake House I was scared that we were going to get in a car accident and my daughter’s felt like that too.  When I arrived back to the house we were humbled, frightened and grateful for this experience.   It’s been 6 months and yesterday I finally (6 months later)  I went to the Lake House and I was glad I did cuz I cried and cried the fears and emotions of what had happened came barreling in.  I had no idea of the amount of fear I carried around with me for 6 months.  that I had that was crippling me until I came face to fa

 

 

How to Bring Love to the Pain Body

I have resisted “what is” all of my life thinking what I had experienced was bad or “ugly”.  This only created shame, doubt, guilt and pain.  Until one day I woke up and realized everything I had been resisting was a message or my guidance.  One would never think guidance would come in this form.  I was keeping self love at a distance wishing it would  go away.

I decided to go within and look at those parts I deemed unworthy or neglected.   I discovered my incessant negative self-talk, and ongoing stories of the past.  This can be destructive.  I was creating unnessary pain in my life in which I would call the “pain body.”   This layer of pain is very much alive but has softened over time.  What helped me soften the pain was naming the thoughts that arose, i.e. past, story , lies etc.   I certainly was not at a point of loving what arises but naming these part of myself was an act of self-love.  Recognizing it for what it was helped me to lighten up and let go.

The Emotional Body plays a huge part of the “pain body.”  I discovered when the emotional body is neglected depression and hopelessness seeps in.  Sharing my feelings was not a part of my family structure.   I was taught to move forward and keep my mouth shut.  As a result I formed a pattern of putting other peoples needs ahead of my own.   This pattern can be changed!

What I discovered about the Emotional Body:

Go within and see what is there.  ie.  sadness, fear, shame, neglect, anger.  Allow, accept and feel into it.  You won’t die.  You will open up to parts of yourself you have put aside for years.  Give yourself permission to experience this.  Deal with what is right in front of you.  I was yearning for self – love, gratitude, presence and acceptance but the only way i could do this was to go within and give to myself first.

Love Is Letting Go Of Your Children …

I’mIMG_5088-1-300x225 53 and I cannot believe I am at this place again!  Being “needy” so my children will love me.  Bah humbug!  I know my children love me so what is the issue?  I remember after I had my first child my Mother was visiting and I noticed how much she wanted to be loved by me when I already inherently loved her.  It felt like I was being suffocated.  As I traced the thread back this started since the time I was born.

I swore up and down that I would never be like this!  Wrong! Wanting to be loved at all costs.  Yes,  this is hard to admit.  Now the declaration is to take conscious action.  I started to notice I don’t say “No” when I need to out of fear I won’t be liked.  i.e.. my daughter asked for money for the hundredth time when I clearly knew I needed to say “No” but I gave it to her anyway.

I know fixing a situation even with money is not empowering.  My gut never lies.  The only person I am in charge of is myself.  Yep, our children are not ours they belong to God!

Posted on February 12, 2016 by Anne Lamantia

How To Keep The Heart Open!

Why Do We Close our Hearts?

I can only speak from direct experience.  First I would say that we are not brought up with the tools to keep an open heart.  It is not something my parents taught me or I was taught in school.  I’ve heard many times just open your heart ~ Well what the heck does that mean?   At that point I became curious and I began noticing what I noticed.   I noticed I would nIMG_0155-300x200ot feel my emotions ~ for example my anger, sadness or grief, and I felt ill-equipped.  I began to notice there was this heaviness I accumulated in my body and I believe it was because I did not process my own pain.  As time went on I began to get in touch with my anger, sadness, hurt and fear.  As I began to get in touch with these aspects I began to feel lighter and to my amazement less depressed.   Oh here is another big one for me!  I also noticed when I interacted with others I was too involved with their stories.  Over the last 5 years I have been willing to acknowledge my feelings and as I do I unravel.

How to open your heart!

1.  It has taken a lot of courage and trust to do this.   A willingness to open to life and feel.     It takes time and patience and a willingness to meet life from a brand new platform.  It takes baby steps to put something new into motion.  We all have our patterns so be gentle with the self.

2.  If you have heard of that saying it takes a village to bring up a child I believe there is a lot of truth to that.  Find support, people who are honest and who will empower you.  Don’t take No for an answer.   We are more alike than different.  As mother Theresa says “do good anyways.”

3.  I believe authenticity is vital to our well=being.  It is so easy to get caught in societal roles and responsibility. when we are missing the point of just being ourselves.

4.  Find something in your life to be grateful for.  Make a list everyday.  It takes time to change patterns.

5.  Love on your pets!

6.  Do good for someone in need!

7.  Prioritze yourself.  Spend an hour every day to nuture your spirit.

8.  Walk away from people who drag you down.

9.  If it does not feel good do not do it.  The same goes for food choices.

10.  Get out in nature.

11.  Never go to bed angry.

12.  Do more listening than talking.

13.  Listen to your intuition.

14.  Say I am sorry and as Mother Theresa has said, “forgive them anyway!”

Posted on November 1, 2015 by Anne Lamantia