England, Penny Lane and Dove Cottage

Several years ago I went to England and as we made are journey from the City of London   via CIE tour we stopped at Liverpool.  Liverpool is the birth place of Paul McCartney.  It is obvious where the song “Penny Lane” came from.  We visited the home of Paul McCartney and were only allowed to see the outside.  It was kinda cool to see where one of the members of the “Beatles” had lived.

I found the next stop to be very familiar and heart warming (even though I had never been there before). Walking along the grounds and witnessing the beauty in the trees, flowers and nostalgia of the stone buildings was nothing short of breath taking.   As you can see from the picture below it is called “Wordsworth Country.”  Wordsworth lived and wrote in this area.  He was a poet and born in 1770.    My thought was “Wow If this is only the beginning of our 2 week tour I cannot wait to see what else is in store for us!  IMG_1599.JPG

How a “Boating” accident impacted my family!

I was in an boating accident on the weekend of July 4th, 2017.  In my wildest dreams I never thought this would happen to me, worse yet my entire family (except my son).  My children are in their 20’s.  Intuition is powerful ~ When I stepped on the boat I had a feeling to not go on the boat ride but my stubbornness overrode this feeling.

We came upon a boat that needed towing.   I immediately said “yes” which is not like me.  I sat at the tip of the boat with 2 of Megan’s (my daughter) friends.  We threw a line to the boat and it was probably 3 minutes into the tow when myself and the 2 other gals had a premonition something was about to happen!  …and out of the blue “my husband says they are going to hit us.”  I looked up and saw a boat headed straight towards us.  No time to think or do anything.  They hit the right side of our boat where my husband was driving and ripped out the right side of our boat.  Thankfully we all survived.

We stood there in disarray for a moment and it was completely quite.  The windshield on the right and left side of the boat was shattered in very small pieces and my thought was.  .. oh know someone died! I began to panic as I saw blood on myself and some of the others.  My eyes were open but I did not want to see.   I did a head check and everyone was accounted for.    I saw Megan’s friend crying and she wanted to get out of the boat.  Yep, I felt responsible for everyone!  Always a mother!  I was scared due to the fact I did not know if someone got injured very badly.  Everyone was scared, in shock and crying, even my husband who never shows his feelings.  I was confused because the boat that hit us stayed at bay and did not even offer to help.  Eventually someone did come to help and got the girls who were crying off the boat and towed us into land.  Grateful there was no injures to the boat we were towing but one quick look I could see that they were also in shock.

When I arrived on land I was very grateful and was relieved I was no longer on the boat. From what I saw everyone had that feeling!  I felt powerless due to the fact I saw my daughter crying and some of her friends.  I felt sad that we had this experience.  What I noticed within myself is that I could not form a sentence.  I did this for a few days.  Fear, and anger was my best friend.  It was hard to comprehend what had happened.

Several of us went to the hospital and everything was okay.  What kept going through my mind was how precious life is and it could be gone in an instant!  I also realized none of us were meant to die.

On the way back to my Lake House I was scared that we were going to get in a car accident and my daughter’s felt like that too.  When I arrived back to the house we were humbled, frightened and grateful for this experience.   It’s been 6 months and yesterday I finally (6 months later)  I went to the Lake House and I was glad I did cuz I cried and cried the fears and emotions of what had happened came barreling in.  I had no idea of the amount of fear I carried around with me for 6 months.  that I had that was crippling me until I came face to fa

 

 

What’s The Rush?

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This time of year can be overwhelming ~ family gatherings, parties, work, consumerism, I think you know what I mean.  But does it need to be like this?  I believe we do not need to rush.  For example, New Years Eve is a week away and most people are already focusing on that day.  Food for Thought:  When you find yourself thinking about the future bring yourself back to the moment over and over again.  Here are a few things which have helped me~

1.  Whatever is swimming around in your head put it down on paper.  If you think it, Ink it!

2.  Notice your thoughts and realize they are just thoughts passing through your mind, don’t try to change them or discard them.

3.  Laugh at yourself and others.

4.  Time is an illusion ~ whatever you are doing is what your meant to be doing.  It is not right or wrong.

5.  99% of the time your thoughts do not come to fruition.

6.  Remind yourself that your health and well-being come first and nothing is thatimportant to get bent out of shape about.

7.  Stop, slow down and breathe

8.  Ask yourself “Why am I rushing.”

9.  Let go of the outcome.

None of us has it down pat and by golly I am glad about this.

Why not enjoy the moment no matter what is happening.  There is no right or wrong, it is happening the way that it is so we might as well make it our friend.    I think I rather be floundering than having all my ducks in a row!   The planet will not blow up or your favorite grocery store will not burn down.  FYI:  Walking to the grocery store is just as important as walking to the gym or walking o a party.  Every moment of our lives is important no matter what it is we are doing, even if that means scrubbing the floor.   There is no rush and there is no getting anywhere .  You are already meant to be where you are!

12 Steps to Authentic Living

First step;  Begin now, not where you were yesterday or the day before or 20 years ago.  It does not matter what went down in your life.  Your perceived wrong doings do not matter.  What matters is you showed up and you are ready to begin!  So let’s begin.

Second step:  Even if you believe you cannot do it, it’s okay because you can.  I believe in you and the divine believes in you and 7.2 million people in this universe believe in you.

Third step:  Take this moment and stop what you are doing.  Slow down, and notice your breathe.  Your breathe is a constant reminder of your infinity.  It is the only thing I know of besides dying that we have no control over.  It happens all on it’s own.  It is amazing to me how miraculous our bodies are.  Our systems know what to do automatically.

Fourth step:  You have everything inside of you right now – in this moment to come into the fullness of who you are.  Yes, you do my friend.   And if something is in the way of you coming into your fullness —- go to the next step.

Fifth step:  If you cannot come into the fullness of who you are, imagine you can.  Jesus said it only takes a mustard seed to accomplish great things. Begin now!

Sixth step:  Get out of your comfort zone.  Be courageous, only you know what it takes to take the next step.  Even if it is a baby step, it’s okay…  Rome was not built in a day.

Seventh step:  Seek Support.  I have found the people who have supported me held me accountable and pointed me in the right direction to find my own truth and accepted me without judgement, were honest with me and empowered me to love and accept myself.

Eighth step:  Take responsibility for your own life.  Let go of should, woulda, coulda.  Look inside for your own answers.  Notice when you are giving your power away to others.  Trust and use your intution.  Follow your heart not your head (that only gets you into trouble).!!!!

Ninth step:  You are your own master, your own guru.  What is it you have been wanting to do but you are not out of fear of hurting others feelings or letting them down.  The only person you can let down is yourself.

Tenth step:  Embrace all of your feelings in any given moment.  Anger, fear, depression, sadness, guilt.  Feel it all.  It is all of the human experience.  A wise friend of mine once told me that unattended anger turns into rage and he also told me if we don’t allow ourselves to emote than it becomes density in the physical.

Eleventh step;  Know that everything is unfolding in your life the way it needs to.  There is no wrong turns, only bumps along the road.

Twelfth step:  Life will get better.  I promise.

Posted on August 21, 2013 by Anne Lamantia