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Cliff House in Maine

June 20, 2018Leave a comment

I recently spent several days at the Cliff House in Maine. I have been wanting to go there for some time now. Many people have told me how much they love that area (Maine that is). I can definitely see why they would! The Cliff House is literally on the edge of a cliff with the view of the vast Atlantic Ocean. I could sit for hours staring at the water and rocks. We dined at “The Tiller Restaurant and “Nubb’s Lobster Shack. Both were good. I also was favored with a beautiful view of the Ocean from my room. I found it to be very calm and relaxing. A indoor and outdoor pool along with a jacuzzi where also on the grounds.

Not far from where we were was many restaurants and hotels. We ate at a place called “Anchorage by the Sea” looking out into the Atlantic Ocean. Below is a picture of it. The last night we listened to a “solo” guitarist reminiscing to songs by the “Eagles” and many other artists. If your looking for a get-a-way and want to enjoy beauty this is one of my favorites!

Love your Ego….

May 25, 2018May 25, 2018Leave a comment

Love your Ego

Love your mind and let it unwind..

Don’t keep track of your thoughts. Don’t go back to the incident and try to figure it out or fix it or berate yourself for it. Leave it in the past and let it have a “blast.” Thoughts have no power over you ~ Just observe. 99% of the time the thoughts you think will not come to fruition. You are “loving awareness”, You are loving awareness. Your Soul is who you are not your thoughts. If the mind chatters -just let it! Let emotions arise. Embrace your fear, anger and sadness. Allow, allow and allow.

Don’t believe anything you hear from others or read. Use your own discretion and intuition. Stay present and stay in the moment. Listen to the birds sing and the as river. Use you as your own navigation tool. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Seriously what are you so serious about anyways.

Trust, play, enjoy, engage, walk away when you need too. Don’t try too hard. Life is on your side. Do what lights you up. Know that everything will be okay. It is between you and God anyways. Let go and don’t try to be spiritual cuz you already are.

Life Force Energy

April 24, 2018Leave a comment

I am doing a course right now called “Life Force Energy” given by Panache Desai, he is a vibrational catalyst. He always says “change your energy and change your life.” I have been on the receiving end for 5 years now and I would say this is absolutely true. I have been in challenging situations in my life and not speaking up has done me a dis-service BUT the good news is I am learning to “Do things Differently.” My breaking point has been Full Blown Rage!!! Call me a rage-aholic, hehe.

Being empathic can have it’s downfalls. Be nice, love and light. Yep – Pure Bullshit!!!! I am learning and continue to learn to be honest of how I feel and sometimes that means not interacting with certain people. This course “Life Force Energy” is a wake up call for me due to the fact I can feel in my body where the blockage is. It is painful but the good news is I am healing and I am aware where in my body I have held my anger, sadness and rage. Yep if you do not feel your feelings it will manifest in the physical body. I can attest to that!

What I can do to help heal this part of myself. 1. Feel

2. Don’t keep tract of what happened

3. Confront the person or talk to a friend

about it.

4. Vibrational Tranformation

I also believe this part of myself that did not have permission to express began in my childhood. I believe it is also a culmination of what I have witnessed over the years and how I have felt about situations and standing up for people. We are now in a time where “enough is enough”. We see it economically, politically, globally and playing out in our own homes. It starts with each and every one of us. Coming together and seeing where we are more alike than different. If not now than when!!!

Empaths vs. Narcissists

April 13, 2018April 13, 2018Leave a comment

I have been carrying this heavy weight on my chest for I don’t know how long. I am 55 and I have come to the conclusion that I am an empath. People who are empathetic feel and sometimes carry the weight of the world on their shoulders. I have also taken responsibility for everyone else’s needs before my own. I have identified that it is my fault when in fact I’m not seeing what is right in front of me or using my intuition.

Why is it difficult for me to use my intuition? Because I doubt ~ I always give people the benefit of the doubt and always give them excuses for their behavior. I also want to feel loved. I’ve been doing this all of my life and it is time to do things differently.

You may be asking What is a Narcissist? There is varying degrees of narcissism. Their is a lot of information about this topic if you were to google search it. I have become curious surrounding this topic due to the fact that I noticed I did not have good boundaries in relationships. I also noticed I was always people pleasing and wanted to learn about this dynamic.

What I have come to learn about narcissistic behavior: It’s all about them and what benefits them. They tend to be a bully. You lose yourself or your own identity. Lying and manipulation to get their way. Don’t take responsibility for their actions and tend to blame others. Not honoring others and their own space. Leave a conversation second guessing yourself. Not honoring of your emotional needs.

Empathetic people tend to see the good in others forgetting to see what is right in front of them. Empathetic people want peace and can give their power away or think that the other party knows more than they do. They meet other peoples needs before their own. Empaths usually do not have good boundaries and try to make things work when they won’t. Empaths can feel what other’s are feeling and can lose objectivity.

What Empath’s need to do to strengthen themselves:

Set boundaries.
Limit your time spent around them or walk away.
Say “No” when it is safer to say “Yes”.
Care for your hurt before their hurt.
Express yourself in a safe environment.
Get in touch with nature or be with animals
Listen to music
Honor your sensitivity and well-being
Love yourself

“Self Honesty” requires courage!

March 14, 2018March 14, 2018Leave a comment

Self Honesty is decisive action. It is ferociousness! It is putting energy into motion. It is the best decision I have ever made for myself due to the fact I have been a “people pleaser” my entire life. It involves being honest with relationships, communication, eating, and doing what is right and necessary for your life. It is saying “no” when you want to say “yes” for the sake of not creating conflict and saying “Yes” to situations and things that you know serve your well-being. I have found when I am caught in the scrutiny of making a decision I just don’t make one. Don’t do things for “acceptance” sake.

Self Honesty builds self-esteem and self-worth. It requires courage and determination. At least that is what is on my list of ingredients. Don’t beat yourself up because you set up “boundaries” in your relationships, especially when it comes to family members. I believe people will always respect you and if they don’t than it is their problem not yours. It’s like spring cleaning maybe you need to “spring clean” your friends. Keep the ones who honor, respect and accept you for who you are. Doing this for yourself is an act of “kindness” and love.

Be your own best friend, it does not matter what “others” think, it only matters what you believe and think. What “lights” you up and what makes your heart “sing”. So go now and show the world what your made of… they have been waiting for you.

How I changed through Vibrational Transformation

February 27, 2018Leave a comment

What is Transformation Vibration? A wise person once said (Panache Desai)
“when you change your energy you change your life.” He refers to himself as a vibrational catalyst.

I have had the privilege to work with him over the course of the past 5 years. He has helped me transform my “dense” or heavy energy. This is done through the process of embracing your sadness, fear and anger. We are taught from an early age on that it is not Okay to feel our feelings. When we suppress these emotions we literally feel “weighed” down.

When I am in Panaches presence my supppressed feelings rise to the surface and past memories surface and hence my feelings come to life. such as anger, sadness, pain etc. I have learned so much about myself over this 5 year period. This has not been easy by any means….

BENEFITS: 1. Opening my heart (I had no idea I had a closed heart until I met Panache). 2. Being honest with myself. 3. Overcoming adversity. 4. Less afraid of being judged. 5. Speaking and standing up for myself. 6. Embracing life and much more.

When vibrational transformation happens you get to the covered spaces within you and the love and light do it’s work on your behalf. It opens up dark corners and the light shines forth. I have noticed that I have abandoned myself for the sake of putting other people before my own needs. I had to learn to pull myself in to connect to myself instead of the outside world. More or less I was giving my power away. I had to look at “my so called flaws.”

To this day I still don’t like my anger, resentments, jealousy but I am discovering that this is part of our human nature and when we can learn to embrace this instead of “negating” it energy opens up for us in a whole new way. Love is inclusive ~ the good, bad and ugly. Remember this next time when you may perceive a not so nice feeling arise! Don’t settle and don’t sell yourself short.

Why I started to blog?

February 16, 2018Leave a comment

I started to Blog in 2011. I wanted to share inspiration and information with others. Most of my blog posts started out about my personal journey. Maybe one would call it Self-help. I would like to say it was a good way to give myself my own advice and maybe this would call to someone else’s heart. Writing has always been cathartic for me and it is a great way to gain clarity in my own life. Believe it or not I still feel hesitant when I write and all kinds of “doubt” seep in but I continue to do it anyway! I can be my own worst critic.

I expanded my blogging with different subjects recently.. The subjects include nutrition, travel, self-help, inspiration, healing modalities, essential oils and health. I am not an expert but I love to share what has helped me on my journey. A key ingredient has been commitment, consistency and repetition. I am also a Yoga instructor and RN. I would be interested to know what subject you would like to know more about. Please go to my contact page on my website at http://www.annelamantia.com and leave me a message if your interested.

I also have some good resources if you are interested in starting a blog. I like to keep my posts to 300 words or less. I like to keep it simple. I use social media and other platforms to share information and I would like to expand even more.

My trip to Ireland!

February 7, 2018Leave a comment

Ireland has always had a stronghold upon my heart and I suppose it has to do with my ancestral lineage and my father has always been obsessed with Ireland! He also owned an Irish Pub in upstate NY called “Carnsie’s”. My maiden name is Carns but according to my Dad the original spelling is “Cairns”.

I have been to Ireland twice over the past several years and the beauty is breath-taking. My favorite visits have been to Dingle Bay and the Cliffs of Moher (picture above). The feeling was as if I were at “home”. The water, green grass and the cliffs are nothing short of amazing. The Irish are simplistic and kind. The food, currents, and soups were amazing. There “soups” were pureed in every restaurant I ate in. Eating breakfast reminded me of eating brunch at my Grandmother’s on Easter Sunday. Chopped fruit, bacon, eggs, toast and soda bread. They did offer baked beans for breakfast so my grandmother did not have it down pat!!

Before I went to Ireland I did research on my Grandmother’s side. Her name was Clara Farrell and she was from County Clare. Knowing this gave me much comfort and interest in my lineage in County Clare.

Another favorite place that I visited is Blarney Castle. The first structure was built in the 10th century. The Castle was surrounded by beautiful gardens and trees, below is a pic of a tree on the grounds.

Over the course of my 2 visits I visited Blarney Castle, Dingle Peninsula, Cliffs of Moher, Dalkey Village, Dublin, Clonmacnoise(a monastic settlement), Connemara (Hills of potato ridges) and Kylemore Abbey and impressive mansion. Ring of Kerry tour mountains and Atlantic Coastline and the famous waterford Crystal Collection. It is true that the “Irish” love to tell tales and sing. I witnessed this when visiting the pubs.

If you have any interest I would highly recommend it and you will not be disappointed. Ireland is a piece of “Heaven” on this earth!

How a “Boating” accident impacted my family!

January 23, 2018Leave a comment

I was in an boating accident on the weekend of July 4th, 2017. In my wildest dreams I never thought this would happen to me, worse yet my entire family (except my son). My children are in their 20’s. Intuition is powerful ~ When I stepped on the boat I had a feeling to not go on the boat ride but my stubbornness overrode this feeling.

We came upon a boat that needed towing. I immediately said “yes” which is not like me. I sat at the tip of the boat with 2 of Megan’s (my daughter) friends. We threw a line to the boat and it was probably 3 minutes into the tow when myself and the 2 other gals had a premonition something was about to happen! …and out of the blue “my husband says they are going to hit us.” I looked up and saw a boat headed straight towards us. No time to think or do anything. They hit the right side of our boat where my husband was driving and ripped out the right side of our boat. Thankfully we all survived.

We stood there in disarray for a moment and it was completely quite. The windshield on the right and left side of the boat was shattered in very small pieces and my thought was. .. oh know someone died! I began to panic as I saw blood on myself and some of the others. My eyes were open but I did not want to see. I did a head check and everyone was accounted for. I saw Megan’s friend crying and she wanted to get out of the boat. Yep, I felt responsible for everyone! Always a mother! I was scared due to the fact I did not know if someone got injured very badly. Everyone was scared, in shock and crying, even my husband who never shows his feelings. I was confused because the boat that hit us stayed at bay and did not even offer to help. Eventually someone did come to help and got the girls who were crying off the boat and towed us into land. Grateful there was no injures to the boat we were towing but one quick look I could see that they were also in shock.

When I arrived on land I was very grateful and was relieved I was no longer on the boat. From what I saw everyone had that feeling! I felt powerless due to the fact I saw my daughter crying and some of her friends. I felt sad that we had this experience. What I noticed within myself is that I could not form a sentence. I did this for a few days. Fear, and anger was my best friend. It was hard to comprehend what had happened.

Several of us went to the hospital and everything was okay. What kept going through my mind was how precious life is and it could be gone in an instant! I also realized none of us were meant to die.

On the way back to my Lake House I was scared that we were going to get in a car accident and my daughter’s felt like that too. When I arrived back to the house we were humbled, frightened and grateful for this experience. It’s been 6 months and yesterday I finally (6 months later) I went to the Lake House and I was glad I did cuz I cried and cried the fears and emotions of what had happened came barreling in. I had no idea of the amount of fear I carried around with me for 6 months. that I had that was crippling me until I came face to fa

Benefits of Yoga Nidra

January 6, 2018January 6, 2018Leave a comment

What is Yoga Nidra? It is a technique which places your attention on different parts of the body for relaxation. The idea is to get out of your head and come into the awareness of body sensations. I became a Yoga Instructor in 2008 and this is what I learned ~ When I work with students I have them lie on the floor and use props to support there back. I guide them to focus on various parts of the body for 15- 20 minutes. Yoga Nidra can be used for shorter periods or longer periods. I have been a student and teacher of this technique and the benefits I reaped were;

Calming the mind
Observing my thoughts
relaxation of my muscles
Flowing with life instead of pushing against life
Expansion of breath
Calmer Digestive system
Headaches subsided
Problem solving: Awareness
Getting in touch with that deeper part of myself
Flow of prana
Body sharing with me of how to “eat” better
Put me in touch with my emotions and vulnerability

more benefits…

Calming the nervous system
Lenghtening the spine
Relaxation of the internal organs
Letting go and softening
And many other benefits

This is a great practice if you are looking for ways to deal with stress and a great way to to get out of your own way so new ideas can flow into your awareness.

Please contact me if you are wanting to learn more about Yoga Nidra at annelamantia@verizon.net