It takes courage to support yourself. The key is not to look outside yourself for approval and acceptance. We often look to others for are answers. Maybe our Mom, Dad, friends and family. I believe old tapes are running in are heads about how to be, what to do, we don’t deserve this, what will so and so think… well, the hell with that! I went to school to become a nurse 15 years ago and mainly I did it to prove to myself I could do this curriculum. Another reason I did it was because I was guaranteed a job. What I always wanted to do from a young child is write. I’m 51 so why not begin now!
Supporting yourself means getting encouragement from those who have your back. THis includes people who are honest with you, non-judgemental and love and accept you for who you are. One could say they see your light, they see your brillance and they have walked the road of loving and accepting all of who they are. Often are family are not that source probably due to the fact they do not love and accept themselves. More importantly support starts with us. Discernment has been a key factor in my relationship to “yes” and “no” questions.
Trust is a must! We must, we must trust! What does that mean? Try it out and you shall see. It’s like being your best friend and loving every emotion, every thought, accepting one’s doubts, embracing your fear, sadness, anger, guilt and shame. This is part of our humanity and a wise friend once told me this is the doorway to our divinity. When we start to do this we become “uncovered” and our light comes flooding in. The brilliant child is revealed.
Anne LaMantia 