I’m 53 and I cannot believe I am at this place again! Being “needy” so my children will love me. Bah humbug! I know my children love me so what is the issue? I remember after I had my first child my Mother was visiting and I noticed how much she wanted to be loved by me when I already inherently loved her. It felt like I was being suffocated. As I traced the thread back this started since the time I was born.
I swore up and down that I would never be like this! Wrong! Wanting to be loved at all costs. Yes, this is hard to admit. Now the declaration is to take conscious action. I started to notice I don’t say “No” when I need to out of fear I won’t be liked. i.e.. my daughter asked for money for the hundredth time when I clearly knew I needed to say “No” but I gave it to her anyway.
I know fixing a situation even with money is not empowering. My gut never lies. The only person I am in charge of is myself. Yep, our children are not ours they belong to God!