I truly believe I am beginning to understand the meaning of “Body/Mind” Integration. Being peaceful & grateful is essential in my daily living circumstances. It has been a gradual process. Let me explain:
You may ask what got me to this place? Commitment, letting go of drama, and noticing how I respond to triggers.
Letting go of drama involves allowing life to play out without getting involved in other peoples situations and at the same time being a good listener. We as human beings “feel” better when we seemingly fix other peoples problems. I know that I do not want anyone to fix me or tell me what is best. Letting go of drama also includes letting go of our stories, ie. past hurts, regrets and gossip. To notice what you are noticing without judgement.
Triggers: We all get triggered by events and situations. It’s important to notice when one blames another for a perceived misfortune. This is what I experience when I have been triggered. 1. Somatic response to a situation, i.e.. gut feeling or feeling heavy. Most of the time it is a emotional response to a situation such as hurt, anger, sadness, and fear. Integration occurs when one allows the emotion to surface through completion. The key is to notice the emotion as best as you can without judgement, and breathe and allow. Sometimes a memory will “trigger” an emotion. When this happens I immediately try to micromanage it which only creates frustration. I have also “distracted myself” from feeling. i.e. going to the fridge, stifling it etc. Most of the time it has nothing to do with what is happening in the moment.
An opening occurs when we allow the emotions to cascade through our bodies. The more I STOP, SLOW DOWN and BREATHE without judging myself the more grace and ease I feel. Remember ~ not to take yourself seriously. Run towards yourself not away from yourself. Someone once told me being “uncomfortable” is your greatest teacher. If you feel scared or unsafe do what is necessary. It can be scary in the beginning especially if your not used to it. Call a friend, go for a walk. Triggers are fantastic and it is a gateway to one’s evolution. So trigger away!