Why Do We Close our Hearts?
I can only speak from direct experience. First I would say that we are not brought up with the tools to keep an open heart. It is not something my parents taught me or I was taught in school. I’ve heard many times just open your heart ~ Well what the heck does that mean? At that point I became curious and I began noticing what I noticed. I noticed I would not feel my emotions ~ for example my anger, sadness or grief, and I felt ill-equipped. I began to notice there was this heaviness I accumulated in my body and I believe it was because I did not process my own pain. As time went on I began to get in touch with my anger, sadness, hurt and fear. As I began to get in touch with these aspects I began to feel lighter and to my amazement less depressed. Oh here is another big one for me! I also noticed when I interacted with others I was too involved with their stories. Over the last 5 years I have been willing to acknowledge my feelings and as I do I unravel.
How to open your heart!
1. It has taken a lot of courage and trust to do this. A willingness to open to life and feel. It takes time and patience and a willingness to meet life from a brand new platform. It takes baby steps to put something new into motion. We all have our patterns so be gentle with the self.
2. If you have heard of that saying it takes a village to bring up a child I believe there is a lot of truth to that. Find support, people who are honest and who will empower you. Don’t take No for an answer. We are more alike than different. As mother Theresa says “do good anyways.”
3. I believe authenticity is vital to our well=being. It is so easy to get caught in societal roles and responsibility. when we are missing the point of just being ourselves.
4. Find something in your life to be grateful for. Make a list everyday. It takes time to change patterns.
5. Love on your pets!
6. Do good for someone in need!
7. Prioritze yourself. Spend an hour every day to nuture your spirit.
8. Walk away from people who drag you down.
9. If it does not feel good do not do it. The same goes for food choices.
10. Get out in nature.
11. Never go to bed angry.
12. Do more listening than talking.
13. Listen to your intuition.
14. Say I am sorry and as Mother Theresa has said, “forgive them anyway!”